Let's look at self esteem vs a positive self concept in addressing the last post. Scripture teaches against self esteem. Matthew 16:24 Jesus says "If anyone desires to come after Me let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me." Jesus knew that people were already way too full of themselves and, in that condition, were unable to find room for Him. God is a jealous God. He expects first place in our lives. Further, not only Him but others, as well. Paul wrote in Phil 2:3 "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than ourselves."Josh Hamilton of the Texas Rangers (as well as some other famous people) have given media attention to the "I am second" campaign designed to get people to put God first in their lives. Unfortunately, putting oneself second is not biblical. We are to be third following God and others. A positive self concept is completely different and comes from confidence. Someone has said that confidence is remembered success. Therefore, the answer to the other question in the last post is - Cline/Fay say where parents err is they focus on kid's weaknesses. The result is a constant eroding of a child's self concept. But parents who build on their kid's strength's find their children growing in responsibility almost daily. What are the indicators that we, as parents, are making this mistake? To answer - what, if anything, is wrong with the following:
What are you doing that for?
If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times.....
Now, honey, you're not going without your coat today, are you?
Shut up!
Stop arguing!
Turn off the TV!
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