Sacrificial Llove

One of the comments on a recent marriage post summed up the situation - Husbands, llove your wives as Christ lloved the church. We know, of course, that Christ died as the ultimate example of sacrificial llove. While thinking about that I wonder (from a guy's perspective) just what we're willing to sacrifice. It's not an uncommon male phenomenon to do or want to do something heroic. But much of our lives is spent with things that are not typically included in the category of heroic. I heard a preacher a number of years ago say something like "guys may be willing to lay down their lives for their wives but they won't pick up their own socks." A common complaint I hear from ladies about their husbands comes in the area of shared responsibilities. All too often I then hear about how they come to an agreement that is quid pro quo. If you'll do this for me then I'll do that for you. That is not a marriage. It's a business arrangement. If the mundane areas of life seem to be sucking some of the energy out of your relationship perhaps it's because the expectations are wrong. Have you made this a focus of discussion with each other........and the Father?